Jose C.

I want to write another essay I recently wrote for my exam preparation. This time we chose to talk about friends and family, and the always difficult decision of having to choose between them.

Please, if you take the time to read it, correct as many things as you can, anything that sounds weird


Having to choose between friends and family in certain point in life is something one has had to face at least once in their life. Needless to say the decision is as tough as it looks, and there are usually consequences that weaken the relationship between one of the parts.

First of all, we need to re-define the word “friend”, for it is nowadays taken for granted and used in situations where the word “acquaintance” would be more appropriate. Assuming that friends are those who will always be there for you, will always be honest and sincere, making you see things crystal clear, and will never hesitate in letting you know you’ve taken a step in the wrong direction, I would say that friends are above family. Let’s take into account that unlike with family, there doesn’t exist a blood bond between you and a friend. This bond has been forced by nature between you and a family member, so it would be fair to say that you relationship with family is “mandatory”, which tends to deteriorate it. On the contrary, a friend is there for you at will, and that is what makes such relationship different. There is no one pointing a gun at them, and they could break the friendship at any time. The fact that they don’t do this is what makes them special in a way. I am positive that there are many family members who would break the invisible family bond without hesitation if they had the chance.

However, let’s make an exception with the closer family, meaning a mother, father and siblings. There is something that ties us with them, something different than with the rest of the family members, and the family blood bond we mentioned before is much stronger in this case. I believe that comparing this closer family with friends is inconceivable, mostly because they lay in two different dimensions and they cannot be treated the same.

As a conclusion, knowing that the closer family is always there gives us peace in a way. So what gives if we don’t see them regularly? We love them anyway, and they do too. On the contrary, a good friend is very difficult to find.

Thanks
Jose